Everybody loves sex baby..

Everybody loves sex baby? Everybody wants you and me? Whilst its easy to repeat the words of this popular number- sex and relationships are rarely ever that simple… So what are relationships and sex really about? One of the theories of relationships that we can consider is the evolutionary perspective. This theory proposes that people’s innate Continue reading »

I will not be defeated

An exploration of what self defeating behaviours and how we can learn to defeat them.. Self defeating behaviours could be described as behaviours that are harmful or self destructive. Some examples of self defeating behaviours are procrastination, drug abuse, sexual dysfunction, compulsive/ritualistic behaviour and general unhealthy attitudes such as isolating oneself, paranoia, extreme jealousy, denial, Continue reading »

Under attack

I have worked with clients who have suffered with terrible anxiety- to the extent where they felt that they were literally ‘under attack’ by an overwhealming feeling of panic causing a variety of both physical and emotional symptoms. Hence why I feel the term ‘anxiety’ or ‘panic’ ‘attack’ is quite a fitting description! So what Continue reading »

Feeling stressed?

We all get stressed out! Just one of life’s many facts- but what is stress and most importantly- how do we learn to deal or cope with it? Stress is the body’s way of responding to a ‘perceived’ (or very real) threat. When a person feels threatened the ‘flight and fight’ response is activated. Hormone Continue reading »

Exploring the past with psychodynamic counselling

‘I can’t stop thinking about what happened then’   When I think of how a client’s past can affect their present reality, Iam reminded by the distress expression on this client’s face as she uttered these words. This particular client’s presenting issue was anxiety and a lack of confidence at work as well as in Continue reading »

A most person centred approach to counselling

Whilst dwelling on what to add to my increasing list of therapeutic blogs I thought it made sense to include some information  on the different approaches to counselling with a little bit about my own experiences of this approach whilst working with clients. Whilst this blog focuses on the ‘person centred’ approach to counselling, do Continue reading »

I cant sleep!

It’s 3am in the morning yet you’re tossing and turning for the last 4 hours. You have a meeting in the morning, you need to get the kids ready for school tomorrow, try to cram some more info before the exam, hit the gym and the list goes on. Argh! Can’t sleep. Feeling exhausted but Continue reading »

Worrying the right way

Let’s face it. We all know that worrying produces stress and stress triggers the ‘flight and fight’ response which produces a rush of adrenaline. This response leads to high blood pressure, increased heart rate and can even have an impact on your digestion. Worrying can lead to lowered immunity, sleepless nights, including depression and anxiety. Continue reading »

Why the thought of a warm drink makes me happy

Cold nights and curled up in front of the telly, a steaming hot mug of tea to warm me. Having a chat with a friend over tea. Or what about when you’re out in the cold- hand freezing- and you buy a cup of tea or coffee. Eager hands wrapped around that hot warmth of Continue reading »

How do I forgive and forget?

Sometimes the pain and trauma of the events that certain people have afflicted on us, can seem too much to bear. Bitterness, anger, resentment are just some of the negative emotions that can feel like a heavy chain dragging us and reminding us of the hurt they have caused, triggering within us episodes of anger, Continue reading »