Let’s face it. We all know that worrying produces stress and stress triggers the ‘flight and fight’ response which produces a rush of adrenaline. This response leads to high blood pressure, increased heart rate and can even have an impact on your digestion. Worrying can lead to lowered immunity, sleepless nights, including depression and anxiety.
So worrying is totally bad right?
Well actually- if you worry the right way- then worrying can also have a positive aspect. If done correctly of course!
There was a time when worry was a necessity to our survival. Thousands of years ago, people needed to be alerted to potential predators and therefore worrying was essential- or using our minds to think about every possibility before putting ourselves in danger. E.g. that sounds like a bear outside. Whereas worrying was an essential then there are very few situations in today’s world of burglar alarms, door locks and police that would necessarily threaten our survival in today’s modern world. However a lot of people still behave as if there is a bear outside their front door and that their survival is threatened. Of course there are many valid reasons for why people may worry- but most of the time none that necessarily threaten our survival or are as worrying as we may make them out to be.
So how do I worry the right way?
• Write down what is worrying you. Once you write it down- you’re able to see the worry with more clarity. And perhaps even develop some solutions or see the worry- for what it actually is. Something that you’re able to work out.
• Find the evidence. Try to find the evidence for your worries. What evidence is there that you’re going to get fired from your job? What evidence is there that your boyfriend is having an affair? ‘How likely is this going to happen.’? If there is evidence then work towards a solution rather than a problem.
• Gain control over your thoughts. Remember, it’s very easy to become carried away with our thoughts, which ultimately leads to speculation and more that continuous vicious cycle of worrying. Ask yourself practical questions regarding the worries rather than allowing your imagination and speculation to get the better of your thinking. Remember, you should have control of your thoughts- your thoughts should not be controlling you.
• Preparation: Tell the difference between speculating and worrying about something that is going to happen. For example, if you have a sporting event coming up that you’re worrying about try to prepare for the event rather than worry about what might or might not happen. e.g. If you have a speech coming up- prepare for it rather than worry about not doing well. Try to find evdience for the worries that you don’t know the outcome for. Visualisation and self-hypnosis can work wonders for helping one to gain confidence and feel more relaxed about events that we feel uncertain about.
Whether you’re worried about finances, relationships the kids or an exam coming up remember that worrying can be constructive- if done correctly. Try the techniques above and do feel free to get in touch for a session so that you can learn how to worry the right way.
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